“I want out!” Lily screamed at her husband, tears punctuating her words. “You don’t understand! You don’t care! You – just – don’t – get – it!!”
“You’re the one who doesn’t get it,” Darryl yelled at her retreating back. “You never did. You’re just a spoiled rotten brat. Always trying to change me. Well, I’m not changing. Get that? I’m not changing anything.”
V:3 It didn’t sound like it, but Darryl loved his wife dearly and wanted to save their marriage. In reality, he really did not get the point. He just didn’t understand.
Lily was wrong about one thing, however. Darryl really did care – he just didn’t know what to do about their fighting and deteriorating relationship. He was like a boxer in the ring – blindfolded. He knew he had an opponent, but had no idea who the opponent was and where the opponent would strike.
Lily, on the other hand, just couldn’t comprehend why the man was unable to see what was so obvious to her. Instead of working things through so that they both got it, then, she nagged him. Her nagging did nothing but drive him up the wall because he couldn’t figure out what was bugging her. He reacted the wrong way which made her think, Why should we try to save this marriage? It’s too painful.
Darryl’s main problem? He didn’t have an interpreter to tell him what she was saying. There was no one to tell him what to look for in his relationship with Lily and what it meant once he found it…if he did. He didn’t have someone to translate her words, looks and emotions so that they made sense and he could rescue her and the situation. If he’s had someone AND if he had taken action, then all the frustration and anger that he was directing at his wife could have been directed at the real problems instead.
Lily loved Darryl, too. She loved him as much as she had when they got married; as much as he loved her. But because she couldn’t get through to him and he let the problems go on too long, he lost her. She walked out. V:3
He also understands at this point how to interpret that language. But instead of acknowledging that he blew it, he continues to point fingers at Lily, saying it was all her fault. Tragically, when he gets into his next relationship, even though he can now interpret the language being used, it’s doubtful that he will take action, because of his refusal to take responsibility.
A man has a unique ability, not only to hold his marriage together, but to craft it so his wife remains in love with him and wouldn’t choose any other guy if she had her pick of the hottest and handsomest. He has what it takes to rescue almost any situation. All he has to do is get an interpreter so he can understand what is being said and, more importantly, what is not being said. THEN with that knowledge, he can take action.
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